Parents Who Lead

The Leadership Approach You Need to Parent with Purpose,
Fuel Your Career, and Create a Richer Life

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Parents in today’s disorienting world can too readily lose track of who they are and what really matters most, but it doesn’t have to be this way. As a parent, it’s possible to harness the power of leadership science to thrive in all aspects of your life.

Drawing on the principles of Total Leadership – a bestseller and popular leadership development program used in organizations worldwide – and on their experiences as researchers, educators, consultants, coaches, and parents, Stew Friedman and Alyssa Westring offer a robust and proven method that will help you gain a greater sense of purpose and control. It includes tools, illustrated with compelling examples from the lives of real working parents, for how to:

  • Design a future based on core values.
  • Engage with children in fresh, meaningful ways.
  • Cultivate a community of caregiving and support, in all parts of life.
  • Experiment to discover better ways to live and work.

Powerful, practical, and indispensable, Parents Who Lead is the guide you need to forge a better future, foster meaningful and mutually rewarding relationships, and design sustainable solutions for creating a richer life for yourself, your children, and your world.

For groups and organizations

Learn how Parents Who Lead can be a powerful resource to support working parents in your group or organization.

Thank goodness that Stew Friedman and Alyssa Westring have brought their knowledge of leadership to the challenge of parenting. Parents Who Lead will stir you to rethink your assumptions about yourself, your partner, and your kids — and map a more fulfilling future for your lives together. If you feel overwhelmed by the demands of work, family, and the rest of life, take back control with this insightful and compassionate book.

Daniel H. Pink, Author of WHEN and DRIVE

The skills that define great leaders at work are surprisingly relevant to becoming a great parent at home. This book won't just help you identify those skills -- it's a step-by-step guide for putting them into practice.

Adam Grant, New York Times bestselling author of ORIGINALS and GIVE AND TAKE


From Parents Who Lead Program Participants

Designed for busy working parents in an 'always on' digital world, this book is an engaging read filled with proven strategies, actionable advice, enlightening research, and real-life examples – including ours, from the life-transforming workshop we did with Stew and Alyssa. A must-read for career-driven leaders who want to be winning Moms and Dads.

Daniel A. Chen, Head of Business Development at Quicken
Loretta Chen, Corporate Controller at Paine Schwartz Partners

The Parents Who Lead process has been truly transformational. We were skeptical that we'd be able to make changes that would stick. But the concepts and structure came to life and yielded quick results, encouraging us to keep going to make meaningful, sustainable changes in our lives, with our children and our community.

Dana Nae Garcia, Executive, Vynamic
Jamie Garcia, Director, FS Investments

We highly recommend Parents Who Lead! It helps you reflect on your core values and goals as a parent and it’s full of pragmatic ideas toward purposeful parenting. As we have practiced and incorporated these techniques into our lives together, we have become extremely close as a family.

Anjana Harve, Chief Information Officer, Hillrom
Rohit Harve, Life Sciences Operations Strategy Leader, Strategy& (part of PwC)

This workshop provided us with specific strategies and a new vocabulary to parent with purpose, and to do so in a way that simultaneously enhanced our marriage, careers, and community relationships. It doesn’t happen overnight, but we are living proof that Parents Who Lead can help you uncover solutions to some of parenting’s truly daunting challenges.

Lauren Tanzer, Cardiology Administrator, Children’s Hospital of Pennsylvania
Matthew Tanzer, Managing Director, BAYADA Strategic Ventures

Parents Who Lead provides a mind-opening, novel, and refreshing approach to leadership by upending the traditional notion of “balance” and competing priorities. By following the steps, we learned how a single smart action can result in wins intertwining across all facets of our lives.

Wes Chou and Lisa Chung, Technology executives

We started the program during our busiest period as parents of two. It wasn’t easy to find the time, but the immediate positive changes we saw urged us on. Now, with three children, busier than ever, we have the tools and confidence to stay the course toward achieving our vision for ourselves and our children.

Laura D. Rivera, Global Finance Director, Johnson & Johnson
Hon. Marc A. Alfarano, Magisterial District Judge