Parents in today’s disorienting world can too readily lose track of who they are and what really matters most, but it doesn’t have to be this way. As a parent, it’s possible to harness the power of leadership science to thrive in all aspects of your life.
Drawing on the principles of Total Leadership – a bestseller and popular program used in organizations worldwide – and on their experiences as researchers, educators, consultants, coaches, and parents, Stew Friedman and Alyssa Westring offer a robust and proven method that will help you gain a greater sense of purpose and control. It includes tools, illustrated with compelling examples from the lives of real working parents, for how to:
Powerful, practical, and indispensable, Parents Who Lead is the guide you need to forge a better future, foster meaningful and mutually rewarding relationships, and design sustainable solutions for creating a richer life for yourself, your children, and your world.
Being a CEO is tough job, but it’s not nearly as demanding as being a mom or dad. Thank goodness, then, that Stew Friedman and Alyssa Westring have brought their knowledge of leadership to the challenge of parenting. Parents Who Lead will stir you to rethink your assumptions about yourself, your partner, and your kids — and map a more fulfilling future for your lives together. If you feel overwhelmed by the demands of work, family, and the rest of life, take back control with this insightful and compassionate book.
Daniel H. Pink, Author of WHEN and DRIVE
I can think of no better guide than Parents Who Lead to help overwhelmed parents find time for what matters most. It’s filled with compelling stories, evidence-based research, advice gleaned from the best of leadership science, and engaging, fun, and practical interactive tools. It’s going to be so helpful to so many people.Brigid Schulte, award-winning journalist, author of Overwhelmed, and director of The Better Life Lab
As a parent, son, and co-CEO, my main priority is to be present for – and create impact across – all of the important relationships in my life. I know I share that goal with others living in a fast-paced, digital world. Parents Who Lead makes that goal feel not only attainable, but realistic.Neil Blumenthal, co-founder and co-CEO of Warby Parker
Parents Who Lead provides data-driven toolkits and pragmatic direction to those of us choosing to be exceptional leaders, both inside and outside of our homes. This book is a must-read for any busy executive who wants to attain the highest possible ROI on the greatest investment of your life: your children.Jenna Fisher, Managing Director, Russell Reynolds Associates
Parents Who Lead is relentlessly engaging and useful for anyone who has children—or is considering becoming a parent. You, dear reader, won’t think about either parenthood or leadership in quite the same way after your journey through Friedman and Westring’s compelling blend of stories, advice, and practical exercises.Robert Sutton, Organizational Psychologist and Stanford Professor, author of bestsellers including Scaling Up Excellence, The No Asshole Rule, and Good Boss, Bad Boss
I love this book! It’s engaging, inspirational, and relatable. As mother of a teenage daughter and spouse of a physician husband, I identified with parents in the book and was engrossed in their stories. Parents Who Lead is a great, timely resource for working parents and a landmark contribution to organizations seeking to embrace the whole lives of employees.Jennifer H. Mieres, MD, FACC, MASNC, FAHA. SVP, Center for Equity of Care, and Chief Diversity and Inclusion Officer, Northwell Health
Stew Friedman does it again! Drawing on his groundbreaking Total Leadership, his evidence-based research reminds working parents, and those who employ them, that sustainable success means bringing your whole self to work. Parents Who Lead is brilliantly done – a must-read guide that offers real solutions to working parents who strive to be values-driven leaders in today’s fast-paced world.Dave Lissy, Executive Chairman, Bright Horizons
Parents Who Lead encourages working mothers and fathers to take a crucial step back from their challenging day-to-day responsibilities to home in on the values that can transform their families. The enjoyable exercises are worth the time as they can lead to more fulfilling relationships and careers and to happier children with brighter futures.Meredith Bodgas, Editor-in-Chief, Working Mother
Your children need you to read this profoundly useful book. Its practical insights will help you confront essential questions, make better everyday choices, and learn how to lead a more enriched way of living – for you and your family. It’s required reading for parents striving to earn an A+ in life.Tom Tierney, Worldwide Managing Partner, Bain & Company, Chairman and Co-Founder, The Bridgespan Group
What a cool book! It spoke to me in so many ways. I needed this wisdom now, even after 27 years of marriage and 25 years as an executive and mother of three. Parents Who Lead is a tremendous resource to refresh and increase the quality of our lives as partners, parents, and professionals.Laura Kohler, Senior Vice President, Human Resources, Stewardship and Sustainability, Kohler Co.
Whether you are a new parent, entering into a different phase of your children’s lives, or a grandparent, this book is for you. Stew Friedman has expanded his award-winning Total Leadership principles into a manifesto that is a game-changer for the parenting and leadership literature.Stephen K. Klasko, President and CEO, Thomas Jefferson University and Jefferson Health
Every parent is a leader. Every parent experiences the challenge of having so much to do and so precious and finite time. Parents Who Lead articulates a sustainable, manageable path forward through this often stress-inducing gauntlet to help us lead ourselves toward the realization of a well-lived and well-shared life.Sam Calagione, Founder and Brewer, Dogfish Head
I’m buying this book for my team and clients. Parents Who Lead is a winning playbook for how to raise healthy children while pursuing professional lives, and enjoy our lives in the process! It debunks the myth of “work/life balance” and unlocks HOW to reimagine work and family as a mutual win.Sally Thornton, CEO and Founder, Forshay
It’s fantastic to see a book that provides actionable, sensible, well-researched advice to both mothers and fathers. By focusing on parenting as a leadership challenge, Parents Who Lead empowers readers with a new way to make decisions that are best for their families, and for themselves.Josh Levs, Author of All In: How Our Work-First Culture Fails Dads, Families and Business -- and How We Can Fix It Together
Friedman and Westring masterfully translate social science evidence into practical steps for building the leadership capacity to cultivate our relationships with our children and with all those important to their development. The compelling examples will inspire parents of all ages to develop more meaningful lives, lived together.Susan J. Lambert, President, Work and Family Researchers Network and Associate Professor, University of Chicago
I have given Stew Friedman’s books to hundreds of people – they are that good, best-in-category by a country mile! Parents Who Lead, with Alyssa Westring, draws on his entire lifetime of work. I only wish he had written it when I was just starting out as a parent.F. William McNabb III, former CEO, Vanguard
Parents, whether they realize it or not, are leaders. Like the best leaders, they can unite people around a shared vision to achieve more than anyone can alone. In this practical and encouraging book, Friedman and Westring guide parents toward creating a better life for their families and everyone around them.Laura Vanderkam, Author, Off The Clock and Juliet's School of Possibilities
At last, an inspiring and informative book on one of the most challenging leadership issues of our time – parenting. Parents Who Lead is full of lessons on how to handle demands on your time and resources – at work, at home, in relationships – while raising the next generation. Want to put everything in context and feel positive? READ THIS.Michael Dowling, President and CEO, Northwell Health
As a mom and leader, it can be confounding to have to manage a leadership dance. Finally, a book that treats parents like the leaders we are! Parents Who Lead provides real, not squishy, teachings and treats parents – especially moms, but dads too – with the respect we all deserve.Genevieve Thiers, Founder Sittercity and Producer, RUN the Series
It’s hard to maintain a true parenting partnership, especially with a shared commitment to carrying the mental and emotional load of leading your family together. Friedman and Westring provide a step-by-step plan for engaging your partner, children, colleagues, and community in building your family's life by design rather than by inertia.Matt Schneider, Co-Founder, City Dads Group
Stew was one of my favorite Wharton professors and his lessons have resonated with me as my wife and I raised our three boys and as I've built my health and wellness company into a 500-person operation. This well-written, compelling book distills evidence-based wisdom into actionable, outcome-focused tasks destined to improve the lives, and not just the parenting, of all who read it.Shaun Francis, Chair and CEO, Medcan and author, Eat, Move, Think
The skills that define great leaders at work are surprisingly relevant to becoming a great parent at home. This book won't just help you identify those skills -- it's a step-by-step guide for putting them into practice.
Adam Grant, New York Times bestselling author of ORIGINALS and GIVE AND TAKE
Designed for busy working parents in an 'always on' digital world, this book is an engaging read filled with proven strategies, actionable advice, enlightening research, and real-life examples – including ours, from the life-transforming workshop we did with Stew and Alyssa. A must-read for career-driven leaders who want to be winning Moms and Dads.
Daniel A. Chen, Head of Business Development at Quicken
Loretta Chen, Corporate Controller at Paine Schwartz Partners
The Parents Who Lead process has been truly transformational. We were skeptical that we'd be able to make changes that would stick. But the concepts and structure came to life and yielded quick results, encouraging us to keep going to make meaningful, sustainable changes in our lives, with our children and our community.
Dana Nae Garcia, Executive, Vynamic
Jamie Garcia, Director, FS Investments
We highly recommend Parents Who Lead! It helps you reflect on your core values and goals as a parent and it’s full of pragmatic ideas toward purposeful parenting. As we have practiced and incorporated these techniques into our lives together, we have become extremely close as a family.
Anjana Harve, Chief Information Officer, Hillrom
Rohit Harve, Life Sciences Operations Strategy Leader, Strategy& (part of PwC)
This workshop provided us with specific strategies and a new vocabulary to parent with purpose, and to do so in a way that simultaneously enhanced our marriage, careers, and community relationships. It doesn’t happen overnight, but we are living proof that Parents Who Lead can help you uncover solutions to some of parenting’s truly daunting challenges.
Lauren Tanzer, Cardiology Administrator, Children’s Hospital of Pennsylvania
Matthew Tanzer, Managing Director, BAYADA Strategic Ventures
Parents Who Lead provides a mind-opening, novel, and refreshing approach to leadership by upending the traditional notion of “balance” and competing priorities. By following the steps, we learned how a single smart action can result in wins intertwining across all facets of our lives.
Wes Chou and Lisa Chung, Technology executives
We started the program during our busiest period as parents of two. It wasn’t easy to find the time, but the immediate positive changes we saw urged us on. Now, with three children, busier than ever, we have the tools and confidence to stay the course toward achieving our vision for ourselves and our children.
Laura D. Rivera, Global Finance Director, Johnson & Johnson
Hon. Marc A. Alfarano, Magisterial District Judge