Total Leadership takes a holistic view of the developing leader, no matter what age or level. The goal is to improve performance in all four domains of life — work, home, community, and self – by finding mutual value among them. It’s a structured method that produces measurable results.
By proceeding through a guided series of exercises and experiences, people make changes that enable them to transform the way they invest their attention, skills, and resources. Their daily actions become more closely aligned with their values. They work smarter, with greater focus and commitment. They achieve the results that matter most, in all areas of their lives. And they become more confident and more competent as leaders.
We launched the Total Leadership program at Aegon Spain to help our team take responsibility for their lives, in all its areas, as a way to help them also be more complete in terms of their contribution to their work. The result was magnificent, with significant increases in commitment (from levels below 50% to more than 80%) and a very good evaluation of the program by all participants.
Tomas Alfaro, CEO, AEGON España
"Total Leadership transformed my development as a leader and internet entrepreneur. This book and the exercises in it are equally powerful – I’m buying a copy for everyone in my company."
Brett A. Hurt, Founder and CEO, Data.World and Bazaarvoice
Total Leadership helped me tremendously to rediscover and reaffirm my core work values. For a journey to authenticity, this is the must-read road map for leaders and leaders-to-be.
Jane Lin-Baden, CEO, Asia Pacific Isobar
Stew Friedman's Total Leadership approach has been tremendously valuable to me as I have grown my career. It has provided me a tremendous tool set for success in my career and in my personal life. I have enjoyed these tenets so much that I have had Stew come and present his two-day course to over 75 professionals in my organization and they all came away much better armed to handle the many demands on their time. Stew is fantastic.
Sam Allen, COO, Marketing, Salesforce
I have seen lives changed through Stew and his Total Leadership framework. If a person is willing to put in the work, the outcomes are amazing.
Jim Hoar, Leadership Development, Target
Stew Friedman shows you how to succeed in all areas of your life. From personal experience, I know the Total Leadership program delivers profound results for both individuals and organizations.
Harry Weiner, Co-founder and Partner, On-Ramps
Total Leadership was transformative. I moved from seeing the world as a series of zero-sum tradeoffs, to seeing the world as teeming with potential positive-sum outcomes...from a narrow view of myself as a leader (at work only), to a strong sense of responsibility and confidence in my leadership in all domains of life.
Matt Benchener, Principal, Vanguard
Total Leadership is an excellent blueprint for optimizing time and energy across multiple domains [and] provides an invaluable methodology for analyzing and realigning priorities to maximize one’s full leadership potential.
Captain Thomas, U.S. Marine commander, veteran of 200+ combat missions
I have enjoyed working with you, learning from you, and seeing the results of this program in our firm. For just one example, one participant reported how Total Leadership resulted in his doubling his volume of client contacts per month, which led to four new business developments valued at $1MM+ in follow-on work. Thank you for introducing a new way to look at leadership.
Laura Mendelow, Leadership Development, Booz Allen Hamilton
The Total Leadership framework is brilliant. It yields promising results and can be easily implemented by any individual, regardless of career/level/age. It has given me hope, and a dynamic tool towards living a more rewarding life. I am grateful to you for developing and sharing this “gem” with the world!
Melissa Presbery, Philadelphia Insurance Companies
This framework helps me more carefully consider the ways in which each of the domains impact the others, and I have been able to identify synergies, which is wonderful. When I used to focus more on work-life balance, I always felt stuck between the two — one was always pulling at the other.
Participant in Pathways Program for University of Pennsylvania Faculty
Based on large-scale research and case studies of applications in a variety of real-world settings, our program has been shown to be effective in driving positive results for thousands of people.
Bolstering Well-Being in All Parts of Life

A recent study of 665 participants in the long-form version of our Total Leadership program (over a four month span) showed average increases in satisfaction in the four domains of life between 14% and 45%.

Using standard health risk assessment measures, this sample of 665 participants showed improvements in well-being, in terms of their physical health, mental health, and stress between 19% and 37%.
Working Smarter
The Total Leadership program not only enhances well-being but it improves performance as well, including at work -- and with less time devoted to work.

In our study average gains in meeting the performance expectations of key stakeholders at work, at home, in their communities were between 9% and 25 %. These improvements coincided with a reallocation in attention spent in a typical week – from work to the other parts of life.
Changes people made from practicing the principles of being real, being whole, and being innovative resulted in their working smarter and enjoying the benefits of more intelligent choices about the investment of their attention.
Increasing Confidence as a Leader
Thousands of participants over the past 15+ years have assessed themselves at the start of the Total Leadership program and then again four months later. This chart summarizes findings on how these perceptions changed for over 500 people. Numbers in green show the percentage gain on each of the nine attributes. On the "Fake" to "Genuine" dimension, for example, there was an 8% improvement.
As you go through the experience, you become more focused on the things that matter and so you feel more grounded, more like the person you want to be. You generate more support and feel more connected to the important people in your life. You become more resilient in response to the vagaries of our turbulent world. And you become more open to discovery and so feel more hopeful, indeed enthusiastic, about the future and your power to shape it.
Enhancing Leadership Skills
Participants also rated themselves on our proprietary Total Leadership Skills Assessment (freely available at this site) – described and illustrated in Leading the Life You Want – both before they went through the exercises, dialogues, and experiments, and again afterwards. The numbers in green next to each skill (description abbreviated here) shows average improvements on each of the 18 skills.
